Thoughts and Affirmations

Thoughts and Affirmations
...of a mom

Did I really believe for so long that my abusive husband was going to get help?  Did I truly believe his promises?
Yes, I did.  Trust is a precious gift which I gave him in love.  It was a gift that he chose to defy, an honourable gift.  I was trying to have faith in another human being in order to resolve my belief that I was worthless.  I release my guilt for staying so long in my relationship.

Did I really believe that my children were better off with an abusive father than with no father at all?
Yes I did.  I release the guilt of not getting my children to safety sooner.  I had no way of knowing what true love really was until I discovered the love I had for my boys.  I discovered that I loved them enough to leave them without a father in the home.  It was the right decision.

Did I believe it when people told me I was a bad mother for putting my children into daycare and trying to raise them on my own?
Yes I did.  I release the guilt of wanting a better life for myself, and by extension for my children.  Through my struggles they learned independence, assertiveness, boundaries and self-love.  These are the only gifts I could afford to give them and yet they are priceless.

Did I believe the fairy tales about Prince Charming rescuing Cinderella from a life of drudgery?  Did I believe that my Prince Charming was waiting to rescue me?
Yes I did.  I release the guilt of wanting to be dependent on someone who could provide me with comfort and security.  I forgive the adults in my life for reading me these stories.  Through my experience my children were taught skills which would allow them to be independent.  As I learned to depend on myself and my feelings, so too did they.